By the time I moved to BETA Academy, there were only 3 of us regulars left at my old academy. We all made the move together to BETA, but only two of us have been able to regularly take class together, due to work schedules. It’s been wonderful to have somebody I already know training with me at a new academy. I’m painfully shy, and the idea of getting to know 20+ new people all at once was very intimidating. Having that familiar face around really made the difference. I think without her there, I would have quit jiu jitsu – I’m just that painfully shy, and on top of that…
I’m by far and away the heaviest of the girls training at BETA. I’m also very short. This makes me a difficult training partner in the best of circumstances. I don’t know what I would have done without my ‘old’ training partner there to keep working with me. She’s been training with me from day one, and she is incredibly fit – she can actually muscle my weight around. She is patient with how out of shape I am, and is never anything but encouraging. I always learn something new when I’m working with her, and I always push myself a little bit harder to keep up. I try to give good feedback as we drill, like saying that the pressure isn’t painful enough (heh), or that it feels like if I do ‘this move’ I could escape… I’m only a white belt and I don’t know much, but I do want to help her. Despite that, I spend a lot of time worrying that I’m holding her back when she keeps using me as a drilling partner instead of one of the lighter, quicker girls. I may be benefiting, but I worry she is not.
Last night after class, as we drove back home my training partner told me that she is very happy to be my training partner. I was actually floored – here I was thinking I was a nuisance to her, and she was happy to keep working with me. It really meant a lot to me to hear that. It makes me want to work harder, too, to be the best training partner I can be for her so that as we both progress we can keep training together.
Have you told your training partners how happy you are to work with them lately?